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I think it's like that everywhere. Men and women tend to carry their baggage into the next relationship/hookup/conversation. It's not fair but it is what it is. Some feel powerful getting revenge. It's childish.
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I agree with you - up to a point. What I've learned is that a lot of people (men and women) don't have a lot of insight into what makes them behave the way they do. True - there are some that do it deliberately but I think a lot don't understand their subconscious. Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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I agree. See you tomorrow.
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One bad apple spoils the bushel. Too bad we can't pick them out and discard them. Perhaps we don't need to? If we expect to be treated with respect we should treat others with respect, and I believe that includes using our voices to call out obnoxious, derogatory, and egregious behavior. Silence = complicity, no? We must stand up for the standards of respect, after all we must lay in the bed we make. Mykl Scot
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Even though I kind of understand that people do bad stuff because bad stuff has happened to them, I don't get it. I had a bad experience with a woman over the course of a bit less than a year in 2009 and 2010. I finally dumped her, and I was dating (trying at least) the day after I moved out. Or maybe the day after that. Moving out was a thousand mile drive, and I was pretty worn out. Four weeks later I met a nice woman, in person by chance. We got together the next two days, had sex the third day, and I spent the night and never left. She's asleep next to me as I write this. (Not sure why I can't sleep at this hour, but I digress.) I was a bit hesitant, worrying that she seemed too good to be true, an understandable worry after a year with an effortlessly duplicitous woman. But it didn't take long to recognize that she was what she seemed to be. Point is, I had a bad experience, worried about the risk of another, but I got over it. I learned to recognize the bad woman for what she was, and that helped me see how good the good woman was, and is. Learn from your mistakes, don't make them again to someone else's detriment.
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HAHA!!! I was hoping for another blog post from you.
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it's not just men. it;s any person who hasn't resolved their issues or worked on their stuff. I agree that a lot of men do it more because they don't parse their lives the way that women do. You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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I love that story! I love it too. It's like a romantic comedy (particularly the first meeting), but without the ridiculous misunderstanding, the break-up, and the eventual reconciliation after realizing that we were right together. We figured that out without the need for the temporary split. I bet she thought you were too good to be true as well.... lol In ordinary circumstances, she might have thought so. But she was in an extended dry spell -- half a year or so -- and wasn't thinking things through very much. The compatibility test on OK Cupid said we were a 99% match. The sexual compatibility said that we were a match (particularly when I went down on her). Her impulsivity helped me get past any hesitation about whether she was for real; as impulsive as she was at the time, I don't think she was capable of duplicity. Thanks for sharing Steve... I love reading your comments as they are from personal experience. You're welcome. It's nice to add something positive to a discussion.
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